The Awesome Woman Project started as a way for me to re-identify who I was during a time when every aspect of my identity was being threatened.
In 2013 I mostly identified myself as:
- A Military Wife
- A Mother
- A Daughter
- A Friend
The common theme was that I based my identity off the roles that I played in other people’s lives. When my husband got so sick that he could have died, when my mom got so sick that she did die, and when my son was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder, I realized something had to change. I couldn’t base my identity off of other people. I needed to figure out who I was within myself. That was when The Awesome Woman Project was born.
I went on a personal quest to figure out who I was when I stood alone. I asked myself questions like:
- What are my dreams?
- What are my goals?
- What am I good at?
- What am I passionate about?
- What are my core values?
- How can I step out of my comfort zone more?
- How can I let go of my fear?
Living through this identity crisis was terrifying and exciting. It was uncomfortable and humbling. I was the most vulnerable that I have ever been in my entire life. At times I felt broken, and I knew that I could go one of two ways: be a victim to my unfortunate circumstances or be a survivor. I have never been one to be a victim (at least not for very long), so I decided to travel down the path of being a survivor. In order to get there, though, I had to walk through some dark times. It was difficult, but there were beacons of light that guided me through it.
Those beacons came in the form of some awesome women that I knew and a few that I had met along the way. I interviewed these women about the incredible things that they were doing for their communities and families, but most importantly for themselves. I asked personal questions about how they overcame fear, what propelled them to pursue their passion, and even how they decided what their passions were. These women all had something in common: their passions were more powerful than their fear. They taught me a lot about stepping out of my comfort zone and being a strong woman.
In May of 2014, my life as a military wife ended when my husband medically retired and then on June 6 my mom passed away.
Suddenly, The Awesome Woman Project became a place where I could grieve.
I talked to a successful blogger, who happened to be a friend of my cousins, and she told me that my blog can be anything that I wanted it to be. “It’s your space,” she told me, “Talk about what you need to talk about.” So, I did. I bared my soul. I poured my pain into what I wrote.
A year after my mom passed, I felt the need to take a break from my blog and go to work. I couldn’t talk about my grief anymore, but I couldn’t write about anything else, either. I also wanted to establish a career in marketing. Do I have a marketing degree? No, no I don’t. People looked at me like I was insane when I told them what I was planning to do. I had no idea how I was going to get my foot in the door, but I decided that I was going to have a marketing career come hell or high water.
I created a resume that was based off of the skills that I accrued while blogging. It included skills like:
- Social Media
- Graphic Design
Once my resume was done and reviewed by a trusted friend, I started sending it out. Nothing happened at first, other than being told no. Then, in the summer of 2015 I landed a marketing assistant contract for two months.
I walked into a corporate office for the first time in my life and I learned everything that I could:
- How the printer and copy machines worked
- How Excel worked
- How traditional marketing worked
By the end, I wrote the technical training guide for the department, and I had another job offer for an influencer marketing agency.
I took the influencer marketing job and, again, I went in and learned everything that I could:
- How all the technology worked
- How campaigns worked
- How sales worked
More importantly though, I learned about who I was:
- I am a self-starter and I learn quickly
- I am passionate about processes
- I am good at technical writing
- I love to train people
- I am creative
- I understand technology a whole lot more than I ever thought I did
- I am a problem solver
- I like to be organized
- I am a work-a-holic
- I am detailed
- I am a little type A. Who knew?! (shhhh…stop laughing, y’all)
Finally, the time came when I started to question if I was making my career too much of my identity. My kids were suffering, my husband missed me, and I needed time to be creative. I had stopped doing the things I loved:
- Spending quality time with my family
I realized that I needed to change, so I did. Now, The Awesome Woman Project is changing, too. It started as a mission to discover who I was outside of the roles I played, and now that I have discovered more about who I am outside of the roles I play, it is time to embrace that identity and celebrate it.
Moving forward in 2017 and beyond, my mission is to:
- Embrace my passions and core values, and incorporate that into my work as well as into my daily life.
- Inspire women to pursue their passions by interviewing women who are actively pursuing theirs.
- Continue to challenge myself to step out of my comfort zone, so that I can continue to grow as a strong woman.
So, friends, The Awesome Woman Project will now be focusing on food, travel, and awesome women who are pursuing their passions.
I hope you enjoy!
All my love,