When I was in labor with my first baby, one of my nurses looked at me during a very intense contraction and told me, “It’s mind over matter.”
I was not medicated and I was feeling the most intense pain of my life, not to mention that I was terrified about becoming a mother. How in the world could labor and the challenge of being a brand new mom be mind over matter?!
First, I glared at her.
Then, I listened to her.
“You can do this, Carmen,” I told myself, “Count. One, two, breath, son of a &%#*, this hurts!! You can get through this, Carmen. You can do it.”
13-years-later, that labor and delivery nurse’s words still echo in my head.
My natural inclination is to see the problems that could occur in a given situation. Sure, it helps thwart chaos, but it can also lead to fear, sometimes. If my thinking becomes too Negative Nelly-esque, those words, “mind over matter,” appear and I remember that I have a choice about how I think. I have a choice to see the positives and to act on them.
There is no denying the fact that life is sometimes really hard. Unexpected events happen — I call them life’s plot twists. People that you love get sick and sometimes the people that you love pass away. Sometimes you have to take on the majority of the work in your house, so that the people you love can achieve their dreams. Sometimes you have to work 60 hours a week in order to achieve your own dreams.
It’s okay to admit that hard work is hard. But, when life feels unbalanced, that is when you have to remember that it really is mind over matter.
You have to think about what you are doing, why it matters to you, and you have to internalize that commitment and become your own cheerleader.
Nothing in life is impossible as long as you believe in yourself and you are dedicated to your goal.
You can do it.
I believe in you.